Divorce And The Courts - Let's Get Started!
You may not have an attorney by your side, but I’m here to help you represent yourself to the best of your ability.
You CAN learn to present your case in a persuasive, coherent and intelligent manner.
Some attorneys can’t even do that!
Although I can’t give you specific legal advice for your case, I will educate you on the law and procedure that you need to know.
On top of that, I will teach you how to use that information to present your case in an effective manner, which will put you in the best position to get the results you seek.
Thinking About Divorce? Getting Divorced? Already Divorced?
SHOULD I REPRESENT MYSELF?
Of course you would like to have a good attorney. I would like to give my daughter a pony. Some things just aren’t happening, but you can’t bury your head in the sand and mope around. You have to deal with the cards you have been dealt. I’m here to help you do that.
If you can read, talk in public and look presentable in a courtroom, you can represent yourself and get positive results. There is no forecasting what a Judge will do (no matter what an attorney might say) but you can put yourself in the best position to present your case in the best manner.
You need to have the confidence and willingness to learn the information you need for your case and be able to articulate your argument when necessary. And, you can.
SHOULD I HIRE A CHEAP ATTORNEY?
Hiring the wrong attorney can do more damage than not having one at all. Unless you do your homework on any attorney you consider to represent you, you might be better off going it alone. While self represented litigants are not supposed to get favorable treatment by the court, I have seen it happen many times. If you are prepared and know what to say to a Judge, it’s likely you will get the same result as if you had an attorney by your side.
WHAT WILL I LEARN FROM YOU?
Resources for NJ Litigants
Since I practice in New Jersey, I have an intimate knowledge of its law and procedure. If your case is in New Jersey, here are some resources to help you. Although these are specific for New Jersey, your state probably has something similar that would come up in an internet search.
New Jersey Court Information. This is the main court web site. It has many forms and packets designed to help people without attorneys.
Avvo.com. This is web site to help you find attorneys, but it allows you to post questions and get at least some information that you might otherwise have trouble finding. It’s not going to be substitute for doing your homework and learning the law as many attorneys who do respond to you will tell you to schedule a paid consultation with them to discuss your specific case. This is because the ethics rules are strict on giving legal advice to random people online.
New Jersey Child Support. This is a great web site to learn about child support. If you are already paying or receiving child support, you can look up your account and get payment history and arrears information. You can even use the child support calculator to figure out how much your payment will be.
New Jersey Wage and Occupation Information. If financial support is going to be an issue, you need to do your research and find out the average salaries for the jobs you and your spouse have. The court will use this data when it determines how much income to impute for any type of job, whether that is the income you claim you make.
Divorce has many components, one of which is the financial side. When financial issues are combined with emotions, the results can be devastating. Asset and debt distribution affects every aspect of your life. Plan for your divorce the way you planned for your wedding. John Cito,CDFA, focuses on the components of pre- and post-divorce financial planning. Divorce Planning is a specialized form of financial planning that can help you achieve a financially fair divorce settlement by analyzing the proposals of you and your spouse. I do not give legal advice. Using mathematics and certain assumptions, your assets that are to be divided as well as your lifestyle will be analyzed and evaluated.
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Fresh Start After Divorce.
Joanie Winberg is the CEO of the National Association of Divorce for Women and Children, a Divorce Mentor and the producer/co-host of The Divorce View Talk Show. Struggling with her own divorce and seeing the lack of step-by-step educational programs to move your life forward after divorce.
Be sure to check out my Podcast episode with Joanie where I give 5 tips on how to prepare for divorce.
Dear Divorce Coach
Cherie Morris and Vicki Vollweiler, both Certified Divorce Coaches, help those facing divorce succeed on financial, emotional and parenting terms that work for the client’s own individual needs. They will coach you and give you the practical and emotional support that is needed during both separation and divorce. The strategies, techniques, and exercises you will learn will help you move forward with a positive attitude and renewed confidence!
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Check out this Divorce magazine, which a feature article by me about why you need a divorce coach.
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Some people need more help than others in their divorce. Be honest with yourself. Do you have the confidence, patience and drive to figure out the law and procedure in your case? Or, would you benefit from some coaching and personal guidance to help you navigate the process and hold your hand along the way?
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Be strong, act confident and stay positive!